Self Hatred

Alright, so I'm not going to give you all a long introduction, instead I'm just going to get right into it. Recently one of my very good friends came to me, and told me that she hated herself. This came as a surprise to me because I never would have thought in a million years that she would hate herself. So like any good friend I told her how much I love her and how wonderful she is, and of course she didn't believe me or change her opinion of herself at all (I knew she wouldn't but I had to give it my best shot anyways). So I feel like I need to put this out on the internet, just in case any of you hate yourselves, I want you to know what I told her, and hopefully you will take some of what I have to say to heart.

I know what it’s like to hate yourself, I hated myself for a long time … you think you're stupid, useless, ugly, all you do is hurt others, you're rude to others, etcetera … there are millions over reasons why someone might hate themselves but no matter the reason, it’s pointless … I know that this will sound harsh but it’s completely and utterly pointless for you to hate yourself for a number of reasons;

1.     People come and go, but in the end you're stuck with you
2.        It sounds cliche but it really doesn't matter what other people think of you, in the end the only person you have to answer to is yourself.
3.     No one will ever be as hard on you as you are on yourself.

So, reason number one; people come and go, but you're stuck with yourself forever. No matter how long someone is in your life, or if they're family or your best friend or if you're even married. Other people can and will 90% of the time leave you, or die. I know that a sound really morbid and depressing but it’s the truth and it needs to be said. so no matter how many friends you have at the end of the day, the only person whose going to be there no matter what is you, so if you're going to be stuck with yourself for the rest of your life, why not just accept you for who you are and learn to live with it, and if there’s something about yourself that you really cannot live with then change it.

Reason number two; it doesn't matter what other people think about you. I know that it’s a huge cliche  and that most of you will write me off right here and now, but just hear me out … when everything is all said and done, you're the one who has to live with your decisions and you are the only person that you have to answer to in life.

And last but certainly not least reason number three; no one will ever be as hard on you as you are on yourself. It’s true, as a society we look around and see everyone else as better than us, whether they're better people, skinnier, prettier, or whatever the reason is, we see ourselves as beneath everyone else. When no one else around us is even thinking anything negative about us, we assume that they are, and that they are superior to us. And that’s ridiculous because; (here goes another brilliant cliche  nobody is perfect, were all different, were all good at different things, and we have to learn to live with it.

So my dears, in conclusion; everyone has something that they don’t like about themselves, everyone has at least one thing that they don’t like, but you can’t put all of your focus on that one specific thing. You have to learn to accept yourself, you have to learn to live with it, and if you really cannot live with yourself … then change what you don’t like, work hard to change what it is about yourself that you hate … if you think you're stupid, then go out and study, learn as much as you possibly can, don’t just sit there and hate yourself and feel sorry for yourself, when you can change it and make your life better.


If you’ve actually read this far thank you!! It’s more than I could ever expect or ask for. If you thought that this was interesting and you like what I write or my writing style or you just feel like it please read some of my other posts. Remember to comment and tell me what you think. Remember to follow your dreams, make good choices, and keep on trying; life could always be worse than it is. 

love, Seattle Girl